The mood around AI right now is skeptical, and where your family is concerned it should be. Co-parenting means putting sensitive things into an app: messages with your ex, your kids' schedules, money, a journal you may one day hand to an attorney. If a product has "AI" in it, you deserve a plain answer to one question: what happens to my data? Here is ours, without the marketing fog.
Everything is private by default
The first thing to know has nothing to do with AI: your data is yours alone. Your plan, journal, calendar, expenses, and messages are private to your account. Your co-parent sees nothing unless you explicitly choose to share a specific item. CoreParent Companion, our assistant, works only inside your own account, and it can never send a message to your co-parent. The send button is always yours. (We wrote about how that works in Is an AI co-parenting app safe?)
What the AI actually sees, and only that
Companion uses one AI model, Anthropic's Claude, for a few specific jobs: noticing a calendar event, expense, or appointment inside a message so you can add it in one tap; offering a calmer rewrite when a draft might land hot; and summarizing records when you ask for it. It only ever receives what a given feature needs to do its job. And our AI keys live on our servers, never in the app on your phone.
It is never used to train AI, and it's deleted within 30 days
When Companion sends your content to Claude, two things are true under Anthropic's commercial API terms: your content is never used to train their models, and it is deleted within 30 days. We recently removed a second AI provider we had used for one small feature, so today there is a single, clear path for your data. We also don't keep the text of your prompts or Companion's replies in our own logs, only anonymous usage counts, so we can watch costs without keeping your words. The full details are on our Your Data & AI page and in the privacy policy.
You can turn Companion AI off, completely
If you would simply rather no AI touch your content, you don't have to argue with a settings maze. Turn Companion AI off in Settings → Notifications. While it's off, your messages and content are not sent to Anthropic at all, and everything else you rely on (your calendar, reminders, journal, and records) keeps working exactly as before. One honest nuance: a message you send to a co-parent who still uses Companion can be read by their assistant, the same way an email you send can be read by the recipient's own tools. Your switch controls your side.
We're not done
Trust isn't a one-time checkbox. We're pursuing an arrangement with our AI provider to not store your content at all, beyond the "deleted within 30 days" that already applies, and we'll update this page and our policy the moment it's in place. When we make a claim about your data, we want it to be something you can hold us to.
In plain terms: your data is private by default, the AI only sees what a feature needs, it's never used to train models, it's deleted within 30 days, we don't keep your words in our own logs, and you can switch it off entirely. Read the specifics on Your Data & AI.