For informational purposes only, not legal advice. Laws vary by state and change over time. This guide reflects general patterns, not a prediction of your outcome. Consult a licensed family law attorney before making any legal decisions.
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The Cost of Conflict

Where on this spectrum do you want to land?

1Cooperative

$1,500 – $5,000

1–3 months

Both parents agree on a plan, use a mediator or online tools, file jointly. Minimal attorney involvement.

2Low Conflict

$5,000 – $15,000

3–9 months

Some disagreement on terms; attorneys draft and negotiate. Most issues resolved without a hearing.

3Contested

$15,000 – $40,000

9–18 months

Multiple court hearings, temporary orders, possible GAL appointment. High attorney involvement.

4Highly Contested

$40,000 – $100,000+

18–36+ months

Full custody trial, expert witnesses, psychological evaluations. Outcome often similar to Level 1–2.

Every dollar spent on conflict is a dollar not spent on your child.

This guide reflects general patterns in US family courts and is for informational purposes only, not legal advice. Laws vary by state, change frequently, and individual outcomes depend on the specific facts of your case. Always consult a licensed family law attorney before making legal decisions. Last reviewed: March 2026.